Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Perspective Suitor Questions

I recognize my responsibility as a dad, to protect my daughters in the area of transition toward marraige. I really do not relish the idea of giving them to a complete knuckle head... worse yet, some abusive, self-oriented, worthless, 2-bit, punk-of-a-man who will trample on that which I have spent years investing in. So, I prayed through a list of important questions that I want to ask this young "Knight in shining armor" to see if he really is a knight, or a dweeb.

I certainly need all the collective wisdom that I can get, so please add to, or provide perspective to the already listed questions...


Suitor Questions
  1. What is your understanding of God, Jesus, Holy Spirit, Bible?
  2. What is your understanding of Man, Man's problem, Man's solution?
  3. What is your understanding of Man's purpose on Earth?
  4. How are you (and will you) go about practically fulfilling that purpose as a husband and father?
  5. How do children fit into the picture?
  6. What is your perspective on the role of the in-laws?
  7. What is your understanding of debt? How much debt do you have?
  8. How do you deal with conflict?
  9. What does it mean to "Sanctify your wife," and how is that done practically?
  10. How would you discipline your children? Take me through a scenerio.
  11. What are your top 3: Heroes, Books, Songs, Movies
  12. Have you EVER looked at pornography?
  13. Lets schedule a project with you, me, Gabe, and Micah together (maybe a 40 mile swim, hike, shooting outing)
  14. Do a family project with us.
  15. We need to do a project with your family.
  16. Do you have your parents blessing... when can I talk to your dad?

Obviously, this would take a little bit of time, but isn't that the point. Some may say, "Goodness... if that is the case, forget it mister..." To which I say good! This is bare minimum stuff... These are things that a man of God is hungry for anyway! If this weeds out the "riff-raff," so much the better, you are not worthy of a Proverb 31 woman.

As far as the answers for the above questions, yes, I have Scriptural answers packed and ready to disciple this young man. I don't expect that he will be ready with "all the right answers." I will start with his character, and be ready to disciple him... and any father should. We live in an age with a severe lack of male leadership. To expect a young man to be perfect misses the point. To expect him to have character and be teachable is closer to reality. But to post the answers... I am not giving him that chance! I want to know his thoughts FIRST :)

2 comments:

Gabriel H said...

Amen! I was just thinking, it would be interesting to see how many of these we would need to suggest. That in and of itself might be telling!

I love the hiking idea. :D

Brandon Elkins said...

GOOD STUFF! MAY GOD TAKE THE GLORY FOR OUR DAUGHTERS AND THEIR FUTURE HUSBANDS! I PRAY THAT GOD CONTINUES TO PREPARE ME FOR THIS DAY IN MY LIFE. ( I ALREADY DREAD IT!) GOOD STUFF.